Words or actions directed towards us sometimes can bring us down hard. Sometimes people that matter to us can get under our skin and hurt us badly upsetting us. People have opinions about us that we may not like and often they are spoken out aloud. How can we get a hold of ourselves when people get on our nerves?

1) Let it out: Talk it over with someone – either a friend, a family member, a colleague or a life coach. A lot of inner tension is immediately released when one does this. Bottling up feelings inside will not make things better. You will end up choking yourself out on negativity and hate.

2) Could the person be having a bad day? Ask yourself is the person hurting you could be having a worse day than you could imagine. It may so happen that the person who is nasty and rude may have an issue at his end. Maybe the day is just not going right for him and so he is ready to snap at anyone and anything. It may just not be about you at all.

3) Can you learn from this? Everything that happens to us is a learning experience. Life has a lot to teach us and such instances happen in our life so that we learn from them. Take a minute and see what it maybe, could it be forgiveness, patience?

4) Replace the situation with positive energy: A negative situation can easily be turned around by doing something positive. For every negative that happens to you, think of 3 positive things and let the feelings of positivity sink in. Feel the positivity and soon you’ll let go of the negative moments.

5) Detach from the person: You want to surround yourself with only that which is positive. Negative influences in life must we weeded out. Just as weeds are removed from the crop we need to de-weed negative people. If anyone around you is too negative for too long stay away from them.

I am always there for anyone who would like to talk to me to deal with anyone getting under their skin. I offer a one to one coaching program that is designed to help you change your life for the better. Check it out at coaching